To Lounge or Not to Lounge. That is the Question
So, I've been the caretaker for my ninety-three year old mother with Alzheimer's for the last seven years or so. Until recently, I also worked a forty hour a week job. In between, I was writing my books, taking me and my dog for walks, grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning, making three meals a day, cutting the lawn, shoveling the driveway, trimming the bushes, fixing whatever has broken in or outside the house, running errands, taking mom to doctor's appointments, getting on the roof to blow off every type of tree dropping there is, raking leaves...well you get the picture.
Then one day, I walk in the house and see my rescue dog, Ela. In the chair. In her favorite position. She too had a very busy life before I adopted her. She was in the Puerto Rican hurricanes. Unfortunately, she can't tell me how she suffered-but she definitely has PTSD. She hates to walk over bridges, especially if she can see the water below. She hates rain. She hates wind. (no brainer) She scares easily. But seeing her there lounging on her back, I realized she had found a way to deal with it, and it's not stop and smell the roses. It's stop and take a break--lounge in the chair in her favorite position.
It's relaxing to her--it makes her feel good. I have learned over the four years I've had Ela in my life, that lying on her back makes her feel good. She does it a lot. And looking at her, I realized she's a happy girl because of it. She's not so stressed.
It's easy to say, a lot harder to do. But it is very important to take a break from your busy day and do something that makes you feel good--that relaxes you. To be honest, walking while listening to audio books is one of my favorite pastimes. But I also love to watch movies. However, when I was working forty hours, I felt pressed to get my walks in and didn't enjoy them as much. I couldn't watch any movies until it was time to go to bed because I was too busy with everything else. So, maybe I needed to try something else. Like lying on my back in the chair with my feet up. Ela swears by it.
I really think she's on to something!!!!!!!!!!!!!!